From what I have heard tell from the very few Mediums / Clairvoyants that I have come to respect......someone who has passed does not have to present themselves as they are when they die. Case in point: A mother and father who had passed away in their late 90's decided to show up at their daughters wedding anniversary celebration. Their presence there was captured on film. But instead of being the crippled 90 something couple they were when they passed they were a vibrant 40 something couple that their daughter remembered so well from earlier years. And she had the pictures to compare to the couple to prove it!!
Since we don't have the physical boundaries in the spirit world that we have to deal with here the possibilities are endless I would think. Of course as JeepGirl put it having more answers would be nice and until then I am only going on what a few others tell me. But I'm working on making that connection myself...lol However, it does seem that even those with a healthy connection with the spirit realm say that they don't always understand the whys, what fors and how it works.
Thanks for the information on Laura McGhee Dennis. That's new info for me. One more thing for me to add to the knowledge of the Grove.