Colleen, you expressed yourself just fine and were clearly not being mean. Tommy took it to meanland by suggesting that you have tunnel vision and that said tunnel vision may be a result of your gender. Makes me a bit sad, truth be told.
EVP's are not typically heard by the naked ear when they occur. This doesn't mean that you can't hear them on audio with the naked ear, they are just usually clearer with headphones. I'm not sure if that's what you meant, but that's my two cents.